We are all living with many restrictions in 2020, masks, minimal socialising, small weddings.
I have done four micro weddings this year and I have to say they were stunning, very intimate and happy. All the trimmings were there but on a smaller scale. The ceremony took on a special meaning because of the intimacy of the small numbers.
The guests informed me they were particularly honoured to have been invited and really went out of their way to create a loving and special day.
Remember when planning a micro wedding to consider all aspects of your wedding, photography - you will have time to set up some special shots inside and outside of your venue, you won't need to rush your photographer. Your flowers can be as fabulous and gorgeous as planned for a larger wedding. Your food will still be amazing and the staff serving won't be rushing to get out large numbers of meals worrying about it being hot.
You will be able to chat to all of your guests in a relaxed way instead of spending time making sure you speak to everyone you will be able to spend time with all of your guests, your guests will be one happy , chatty group, there won't be small separate groups.
A micro wedding is a beautiful intimate celebration of your love, with your most special people there, enjoy every minute of your day.
So here we are, heading towards Halloween, why not have a lovely autumnal celebrations, all the lovely autumn colours, beautiful pumpkins carved and place at the end of your guest seating with candles in - this will look stunning, consider a themed wedding, I did an outdoor wedding last year with a Halloween theme, it was fabulous, all woodland style table decorations with small pumpkins, the wedding cake was chocolate and decorated like a tree with pumpkins in, very simple but so impressive, let your imagination run free, let your wedding celebrant write you your unique and personalised ceremony bringing in the theme you have chosen.
When I was asked to do a wedding ceremony to be beat the very restrictive Covid rule changes, I was quite excited, I was even more excited when I found out the couple had a little boy, who they were planning a separate naming ceremony for, my suggestion to them was to combine it with their wedding. So off I went ideas in hand, incorporated a sneaky naming element into the ceremony - non of the guests or guide parent knew, what a surprise lots of tears and happy people, humanist style, inclusive ceremony, and the whole thing was live streamed to everyone who couldn't be there, a magical day.
Incorporating the naming made the day even more special because it became a ceremony, not just about the couple, but about their family unit.
Whether you want traditional wedding vows, modern or humorous vows, why not have them written uniquely for you? That is why you need a celebrant to help you make those important vows as special as they can be, why have the bog standard that everyone else uses? make them unique to you and your story.
As a celebrant I can help you to think and decide what style of vows you want and help you create them with you, so they say exactly what you feel, what your hopes and dreams as a couple are for your future together.
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So at last the rules have changed, you are now able to have small weddings with a reception afterwards, as long as the venue is Covid compliant and you still practice social distancing.
If a small, intimate, private classy wedding is good enough for Princess Beatrice why don't you have one and buck the trend for large and lavish.
The Princess Beatrice wedding yesterday may have had the Queen present, which you can't have, but in every family there is someone who is treat like a queen so make sure they are invited.
30 guests can mean you qualify for a lot of wedding venues special offers of a package, it could leave you extra cash to spend on your honeymoon or extra money to decorate or furnish your home.
A small wedding is so personal and enjoyable as a couple you won't need to feel you are rushing around all day trying to engage and chat to loads of people, you can spend time with your guests in a meaningful way.
You could be the trailblazer and start a new trend among your friends - after all as the saying goes 'good things come in small packages'.
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I have just completed an update on LGBTQ rights, very interesting, especially the information on non binary and the use of language, even though I am a member of the LGBTQ Equality weddings directory I learnt something new today. If looking for a wedding to suit you be sure to check out LGBTQ views and attitudes, you deserve the wedding you want and the wedding that reflects your life and love as a couple. Inclusivity all the way.
Well after yesterdays post about weather and outdoor weddings, I can not believe the amount of strong winds we have had here in the North East overnight and today, any veil would have been wrapped around the bride, mind she would have been warm! confirms my wedding blog yesterday about considering the weather if choosing to wear a veil, but the blustery weather would have made some spectacular wedding photographs.
I love doing outdoor weddings, the beauty of using a celebrant is that you can have your outdoor wedding anywhere : a field wedding; a farm wedding; a beach wedding; a garden wedding; a roof wedding. Just think about it. A personalised unique ceremony exactly as you want it. Think about the weather and have a back up plan; use dried flower petals for confetti so that they flutter to the ground giving time for that fabulous confetti wedding photograph; consider using bubbles instead of confetti - the children love this; think about the wind - do you really need a veil??? let your guests know it's is outside so they need to think about their shoes and hats; sound projection/ music check equipment is available so all your guests can hear the ceremony. The possibilities are endless.
When I am planning a ceremony I am not constrained by my own beliefs or values, your wedding ceremony or your family members funeral ceremony is entirely lead by your own beliefs and values, if you want cultural elements - have them, if you want religious / faith elements - have them, if you want a combination of belief systems - have them combined. It is so exciting to value and celebrate our differences and incorporate them into any celebration in our lives and that is what I strive to do in every ceremony I craft for couples and families. I always remember the ceremonies I write are not for me or about me they are always about YOU. It is your celebration let's do it the wat you want.